My name is Karen I am a single Mom, and I have an 18 year old son who was just in a serious auto accident and I will have to take care of him for 2-3 months while he heals.
I have to bathe him shave his body daily while he heals and need to talk to MOM's only about how to best deal with the tough side of seeing my son nude everyday and having to wash and shave his body. He is unable to masturbate due to his injuries and therefore he is always erect when I am washing him and shaving him, I just want to talk to a mom how best to deal with it and such. I started putting a towel over his eyes when I am having to touch him as he would just stare while I was doing it. It is very tough to get him in and out of the tub without getting soaked and I had to start using my large garden tub and wear a bathing suit and bring him into the tub with me to wash him, I started to shave his body on his bed as it is easier to do there with him laying down and keep his eyes covered. It is getting tougher everyday on him and his body tenses up more and more as I have to touch him.
I just don't know what to do, I want to talk to mom's that are open and will not judge me for what I am having to deal with which is not anything I expected. I just want to be open and share my thoughts with a mom on what best I can do for him to take care of him.
Are you still there? I am a 62 yo mother and grandmother that could be of assistance with advise should you be still seeking it. Please reply at your convenience.
Oct 1st
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I have had similar issues my brother is disabled and needs help the same way as your son. Being in a single parent home mom and I have had to help him andwe both get the same reaction. any questions just ask ddwilson16@yahoo.com
Oct 13th
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i just happened to join this group. and saw your post.
since it is almost two months i hope that your son is alright now, and capable of taking care of himself. however, since i also had a similar experience last year as my 17 year old son suffered fracture in his arms and unable to do things his own. let me give u few advises. first of all you do have to worry about seeing your grown up son fully nude and erect. after all he is your own son, and you have brought him up through all different stages. you can assure him that there is nothing wrong in being nude in front of you. in fact, i would advise you not to cover up his face as you have mentioned. it would make things more complicated. secondly, at this stage it is better to avoid shaving his body and pubic hair. let it grow. and when you wash his penis, if he is uncircumcised, make sure that you pull the foreskin and clean under it. also since he is not ejaculating, there would be possibility of precum generating. it is so very much important to clean there. also just watch if he gets wetdreams. if so, please clean it up. though i would nt advise, you may casually ask him if he needs a masturbation. if he insists, you can just give him. please write to me if u need more assistance, my email id is sunuvj@gmail.com
Nov 10th
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How are things going for you both? We would like to hear from you. I can not relate to your experience personally but I would like to be here for support for you.
Please drop by and let us know how things are going.
Corina
Nov 25th
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Dear Mom, as a physician, with a discreet experience with teenagers, I can tell you your son is perfectly healthy and normal. You would be surprised by the number of boys, who during they're complete physical exam, become semi or fully erect, something I've noticed to happen, even more frequently, when in presence of the mother.I myself, require a parent (usually the mother) to be present during the teen complete development exam. The boys are allowed they're briefs on for the first part of the examination, after which, quite obviously they must be nude for the genital and rectal, for I believe it to be very very improtant for a parent to understand the development and growth taking place. In case of erections I also take the time to exlpain, calmly, the meaning and causes of such reactions. Certainly, judging by your age, you must be youthful and well kept. This has obviously struck something in your son's libido that finds your figure attractive to him. I would need to ask you a few questions that could help me understand your situation better:1. Has your seen ever seen you partially/fully nude ? 2. On how many occasions/ On what occasions? 3. How has his behaviour changed since?There is nothing right or wrong in the answers you may give me. Its just a way for me to help you better. It may very well be, your son has been seeing you without you even noticing (75% of times). Either in the shower, touching yourself in the privacy of your bedroom, or simply applying lotion. Finally, it is obvious that he is building an unbearable pressure that may soon become either uncomfortable or painful. Had been hospitalized, a certified nurse would've already had milked his prostate. This is not a procedure I usually suggest you try on your own, as the tamptation to stroke or hold the erection may too strong at the given moment. However you should sit through it with him, whilst a trained professional may come to your home, or may do it at the clinic. I know I've done my share either during or after certain complete examinations, either by my suggestion or personal parental request. Please let me know how else I may be able to help you:drsue46@hotmail.comBest,Suzanne
